A GOOD MAN AND A GODLY MAN 

There’s a difference between a good man and a godly man. A good man do the things that he believes to be right by his own standard but a godly man does things that is according to God’s Will and he is governed by Godly Standard. God who love us all have given us His instructions, in His words, how we must live and walk. God wants us to be obedient to what we have heard.

“…Pay the most careful attention, therefore, to what we have heard, so that we do not drift away” (Hebrews 2:1).

The Christian community is full of Christian single men and women. Many of these singles wants to be in a relationship; some find it very difficult to cope with the single life and they are even wondering if being single is okay. They may pose the question like, “Is it wrong for a Christian to feel discontent with being single?” Yes and No. Yes if the Christian is mature and knows what God’s word said about seeking Him first and No if the single is immature about the spiritual things and need to be taught that God knows what’s best and have what’s best for he or she.

The tragedy according to John Eagar is however that “single Christians try to find fulfillment in a member of the opposite sex instead of in God.A Christian that seeks completeness in another person or in a relationship will always bring about broken heartedness, loneliness, and emptiness.”

A Christian single can look at the following questions and reflect on their answers: “Am I happy and content being single?”, “If I am in a relationship and that relationship ended today, would the breakup break me up?”, “Do I feel that I am a nobody without having a steady relationship with a member of the opposite sex?”, and “Am I accepted and love for being the person God made me to be?” A single person needs to take time asking themselves some honest and tough questions.

The apostle Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 7:24, “Brethren, let every man, wherein he is called, therein abide with God. ”Be content being in the season of life that God has placed you in. Maybe the Lord’s will is for marriage and maybe His will is not for marriage. God may be calling some Christian singles to be single their entire lives. Try not to focus on dating as being the number one priority in life. Jesus Christ and Him alone should be number one. Honor God and trust Him for His plans in life. This does not mean that life is going to be miserable and lonely. Instead, life in Christ is complete and free of heartache.

The Godly Single Men must use their season of singleness to develop a routine of studying the Word of God and spending time in prayer that they can take with them into marriage. The goal is to glorify God and not bring glory to self. The belief that being in a relationship is a free of problems is nothing more than a myth. Singles have their own set of problems. A relationship only brings about more problems. This does not mean that being in a relationship is wrong. However, being in a relationship to escape problems is wrong. If problems seem to mount, then a man or woman is to cast all cares upon the Lord Jesus Christ. 1 Peter 5:7 commands, “Cast all your care upon him; for he careth for you.”

Joshua Harris, I Kissed Dating Goodbye: A New Attitude Toward Romance

The godly single man is to make sure that his personal relationship with Jesus is growing on a daily basis. Then and only then will a single man or woman be as effective as they can be in a relationship. Church is a place to worship and serve the God not a place to be so focus on meeting a mate. It is God who said to seek Him first and then He will give all things.  Sadly, many Christian men and women attend church for the wrong reasons.

A man may search and try different churches until he finds the church with the best looking single women. He then “feels” the Lord leading him to attend that church. His motives are not to worship and serve the Lord but to hang out with the beautiful Christian single women. From the start, the man’s heart was not in the correct place. Instead of attending church to see what cute guy or what gorgeous girl is present, attend church for the sole purpose of worshipping and serving the Lord. The Christian single that does so will have a clean heart with pure motives. In the process, the Lord may send a Christian single person their way. If the Lord does do so, then the desire to purely worship and serve the Lord will not go away.

The World Says – Joshua Harris, I Kissed Dating Goodbye: A New Attitude Toward Romance:

Do whatever it takes to fulfill one’s self pleasure of love. “If it feels good, then just do it,” could sum up the world’s motto. The motto is not limited to teenagers or adults. Children in grade school are learning about and acting out the world’s motto. Ten year olds, sometimes even younger, constantly find themselves bombarded with the concept of love’s self pleasure. These children are learning about the concept on the playground, at the schoolhouse, from friends, through the media (i.e. television, movies, newspapers, radio, Internet, and books), by attending parties, and even at home. The children grow into teenagers. Eventually the teenagers grow up and become adults. The adults have children and the cycle of love’s self-pleasure continues.The world’s motto of love’s self-pleasure is an ongoing battle that is raging. No one is exempt. Satan is destroying lives by using the world’s motto. Jesus said satan is a liar and the father of lies (John 8:44). Satan has an agenda to destroy every single child, teenager, and adult. The prince of the world (John 14:30), Satan, is using the world’s motto to fulfill his agenda through warping the real meaning of love. 

Jesus Says

“Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment.  And the second is like, namely this, Thou shall love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.” Contrary to the world’s motto, Jesus’ motto is to first love God and then love others. An individual must love God with their entire heart, soul, mind, and strength (Matthew 22:37).

Singleness – Joshua Harris

The season of singleness contains so many responsibilities and decisions. This exciting season can serve as a training ground for a man or woman to improve their skills in taking on responsibilities and for making decisions. These skills are important to a man or woman that will eventually get married.Living Life with a Purpose? The wonderful season of singleness reminds a single man or woman that they need to live their life with a purpose for Jesus Christ. They are not on earth just to simply waste time, take up space, and not live life for a purpose. The season of singleness allows opportunities and freedoms to serve and care for the things of the Lord. The man or woman does not have to spend their time taking care of a spouse, children, or other responsibilities that come with marriage. The primary purpose of living life is to completely follow and serve Jesus Christ. The single man or woman is free to build relationships and show God’s love in a way that a married individual cannot. The single man or woman does not have to worry about being home at a certain time, does not have to concern himself or herself with responsibilities of a spouse, and can build as many relationships as possible with less limitations.

WHAT ARE SOME COMMON MISTAKES MEN MAKE IN RELATIONSHIPS WITH WOMEN  – BY JOHN EAGAR?

For starters, men are too visually oriented. Majority of the men, if they are truly honest, place high priority on women’s physical appearance.

A man that is only looking for a woman that meets his idea physical criteria may do so for an ego trip. He simply wants others to be impressed with the woman he is with. In some way, this elevates the man’s value among other men. The man’s selfishness causes pride. His motivations are for what others will think of him.

The single Christian man needs to seek the Lord’s guidance for life. A single Christian woman that does not necessarily meet the man’s physical criteria should not be ignored. A man that places too much emphasis on looks is in danger of choosing the wrong woman. The outward qualities do not provide a detail and complete picture of that particular individual.

An individual that relies completely on outward appearances is selfish. The self-absorbed individual does not consider the needs of others and prevents pure passion. Individuals involved in a dating relationship based solely upon outward appearances will end up in an unfulfilling relationship. The romance will fade away and the relationship will eventually end.

IN CONCLUSION:

I specifically chose these beautiful scenery created by God to help to point you to get alone with God and if you do so He will grant you all the desire of your hearts. My prayer for you today is that you “Single Man” of God is that you will trust God in everything and for everything. I pray that you will always have an eternal perspective in all that you do. The following scriptures is to encourage you daily on your walk with our Lord.

THAT:

• Seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you (Matthew 6:33).
• You love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might (Deuteronomy 6:5).
• I, therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love (Ephesians 4:1-1).
• All things are lawful for me,” but not all things are helpful. “All things are lawful for me,” but I will not be dominated by anything (1 Corinthians 6:12).
• Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God  (James 1:19-20).
• So then let us pursue what makes for peace and for mutual upbuilding (Romans 14:19).
• Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord (Romans 12:11).
• No servant can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other.  You cannot serve God and money (Luke 16:13).
• Put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires (Romans 13:14).
• You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden (Matthew 5:14). You then, my child, be strengthened by the grace that is in Christ Jesus.